Would you believe if someone told you that everything is possible? You would probably laugh a little. Sure, we tell our kids that they can be anything and do anything, but as adults we lose that feeling. We call it "reality."
I wanted to explore this a bit. Adults get so stuck in paying the bills and taking care of their kids or their pets, that the routine is what they begin to crave. It is hard for them to imagine what is possible once they have their life "set." But... is everything possible? Is it just mind over matter?
We tell our children and students that they can be anything they want. Walk on the moon, become president, start a successful non-profit that will bring clean water to everyone in the world. We spend a lot of time with kids setting goals, teaching them how to set goals and the steps to reach those dreams. It takes a strong-willed, persistent individual to keep on track, is what we say. We believe in our kids and I think we need to start believing in ourselves.
I have never believed myself to be that strong of an individual. My biggest demon is the space between my ears. How many times a day do you talk yourself out of doing something? You probably don’t even realize you are doing this half the time because it has become second nature. Start realizing when your self-talk becomes damaging and turn those thoughts into something positive.
Maybe you need some perspective. At 35, I am likely not even halfway through my life. I have a lot of life experience and know what works for me and what doesn't. I have a clear picture of what I want to spend the rest of my life doing, and it is certainly not working for someone else. 99% of people did not become a success story overnight. It takes big dreams, action, more dreaming, more action… changing plans, hard work, tears, more action. It takes overcoming your greatest fears and overcoming the dreaded opinions of people who don’t matter.
My biggest fear is failure. I have a hard time voicing my dreams and opinions, because if I voice them, then they become something I can’t take back. When I fail to meet that dream or deadline, I fear I have let others down. I understand that those I love won’t feel that way, but it is how I am hardwired and it takes a lot of patience with myself to get through that.
My best plan for getting over this fear is to keep acting. Don’t stop when I am tired, when I’m not “feeling like it today,” and don’t stop fighting for what I want out of my short time I have in this life. We must act and adjust. Keep going. Keep adjusting.
I want to make a difference, in my life and in the lives of others. It isn’t the same difference you want to make, but it is equally important. We need to be focused on the small steps with the big picture always in our mind. Age does not define you. Experience does not define you. Only you can define yourself, and you must know who you are and where you want to go.
So, yes, everything is possible. If you want something enough, you will get it. But when your expectations do not meet your reality, you won’t get too far. Rise to meet your expectations, and you will get to where you want to be.